It is Saturday morning on a beautiful March day. I walk into my studio with coffee and cereal in hand and out of nowhere I decided I wanted to watch the movie “Burlesque” with Cher and Christina Aguilera. There is a pile of work waiting for me on my desk, the TO DO list is a mile long….but I am so exhausted that I just want to sit and watch what could potentially be a very bad movie.
I had so much fun!
As I was watching Aguilera dance and sing her heart out on stage in the movie, I realized two things:
1) There is no limit to what we could do if we just stop judging.
2) We all should have more FUN!
We judge ourselves and we internalize other people’s judgment of us as well.
A guy I dated for a hot minute told me that he hated my singing voice. Even though I was singing in the car and in my studio, singing for no one else’s pleasure but my own, he felt the need to be cruel and rendered judgment. I sing a lot less because of it.
I started ballet and modern dance lessons at the age of 13 and gave it up when I injured my knee at 15. I knew I was not built to dance with the American Ballet Company but I LOVE LOVE LOVE to dance, any kind of dancing. I stopped dancing because I rendered judgment on how far I could go.
My ex-finance told me I couldn’t write because subject verb agreement is not my strong suite (English is not my first language – In Mandarin Chinese you don’t have these pesky issues). I shy away from writing for a long time because of an off handed comment.
Do you realize how constant the judgments are?
A simple decision of watching a movie on a Saturday morning rendered the following judgments:
I should be working instead of watching a movie. I am not working as hard as I could be.
I cannot believe I am watching “Burlesque” with Cher and Aguilera. This is far from “art.”
No self-respecting alternative rock loving chic would listen to bubble-gum pop like that of Arguilera.
WOW. Ok. We need to stop judging. Period.
It is Saturday morning and I am tired. I need a break, I need some time off and decompress from these past few weeks. The movie was fun. Arguilera can SING! Her voice reaches down to somewhere deep and brings up the happiness. So I am going to enjoy it. All of it. The morning spent watching a movie, dancing through the studio to the soundtrack, disregarding how something is labeled or thought of, not caring what I or anyone else think I should and should not do. Why?! Because I am having so much FUN.
Is that not what this is all about in the end? To enjoy ourselves and have FUN?!
Judgments, yours, mine, random peoples and the stablishments becomes limitations. We stop engaging in activities we enjoy because someone decided to tell us what they think, because someone thinks they know better. We internalize the judgments and make our world a little smaller bit by bit. What we forget to ask is, will I have more fun or less fun if I stop doing _____?!
So lets watch a movie together, lets sing along to Cher and Aguilera and lets dance in our studios! Lets stop limiting ourselves with judgment and have some wicked FUN together!
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I love Burlesque and it is a truly underrated movie! Christina Aguilera and Cher were so good in this movie!It’s a shame how negative people are towards Christina wish they would see how talented she is. Truly underrated too! Nice blog!!
I enjoyed that film so much I am slightly embarrassed to admit it. It was so much fun. I think we can all judge a little too harsh by the cover of anything at time. Plus, Cher is FIERCE! How can you not love her?!